Mark C sez:
The essence of uncaring assholery is simple. “And?”
“I have a boyfriend” “And?”
I want to see that chick-flick.” “And?”
“You don’t love me” “And?”
“you don’t care about my needs” “And?”
“I wish you would shave your mustache so I can see your face” “And”
“You would look so much better if you dressed like _______” “And?”
In my experience, that one simple word, accompanied by a smirk and a raised eyebrow, is the single most powerful word in the English language. Even more effective than “I dont care” because it encapsulates “I dont care” within it, along with a whole host of other phrases.
This is a good singular example of the tactical essence of uncaring assholery. “And?” is ambiguous. “And?” is ambivalent. “And?” is mischievous. “And?” is all the things women love in men.
If you are new to the game of uncaring assholery, and struggle to say the right words at the right time, have ready in your back pocket the simple expedient of “And?”, for use when your state control is challenged by a curious woman. It is practically failsafe.
Beware overuse, though this warning applies to just about any game tactic. Try to resist the temptation to lean too heavily on an effective rapport technique, because when you witness the results you’ll be greatly tempted, indeed. But remember, chicks dig unpredictability, too.