Reading about these horror stories left a bad taste in my mouth:
Patrick Connaro, a 42-year-old robotics engineer living
in Colorado Springs, was sitting in the bleachers one warm Saturday
afternoon in 2003, watching his son’s Little League game, when the ground opened beneath him.
“My little boy was there, he was up at bat, and I started yelling for
him, ‘Go Matthew [not his real name]! Knock it out of the park!’ And
another man started screaming for Matthew. Louder than me. I looked
over, and I looked at him, and I was like, Who is this guy? And I looked
at my son, and I looked at him … and they were identical.”
After the ball game, Connaro ordered a paternity test. The results
came back 2 weeks later. “I opened up the letter from Labcorp, and it
said, ‘ … 99.9 percent chance you are not the biological father of this
child.’ I started crying. My head started spinning.”
Patrick, good provider beta male, dutiful husband, and doting father,
was cuckolded by his wife and spent years of his life raising another
man’s child. Would his wife, whom he knew so well and loved so deeply
for her outer and inner beauty, ever own up to her monumental lie?
Connaro admits that the possibility had crossed his mind
before, given his son’s dissimilar facial features, but each time he
questioned his wife about it, she vehemently denied the suggestion. Even
when he showed her the test results, she still denied it. “She said,
‘You forged this,’ ” Connaro recalls, shaking his head in amazement.
Ethicists are baffled!
Cuckoldry is, at least from the gene’s point of view, the worst thing
that can befall a man outside of getting killed. We are here on this
earth to serve one purpose — the propagation of our genes. Everything
we do is either designed to push us toward that goal or is a byproduct
of that purpose. So when a wife cheats on a husband, bears another
man’s child, and then monopolizes the time and resources of her husband
toward the raising of that child, she has stolen his reproductive
sovereignty just as surely as hers would be stolen if she got pregnant
by a male rapist and was forced to raise a child she didn’t want.
She has committed the equivalent of female rape.
While rape is associated with horrible physical trauma which
mercifully lasts for minutes on average, cuckoldry embodies the
lower-intensity but longer-duration physical trauma of exerting oneself
for years to accumulate resources for child rearing. Psychologically,
both are traumatic. In fact, cuckoldry is actually worse than rape
in one noteworthy respect — opportunity cost. A woman raising a
rapist’s child is still propagating her genes, unlike a cuckolded man
who propagates nothing for the time he is deceived into raising a
Keep in mind that a man’s resources are equivalent to a woman’s
body. Both are the bread and butter of their respective sexes for
fulfilling the prime directive of DNA replication. Rape is universally
despised because the violation cuts right to the core of a woman’s
essence. Cuckoldry does the same to a man, so why is it not nearly as
universally despised? Where are the marches and policy discussions and
gender studies departments to right the wrongs of cuckoldry?
The answer is simple. In genetic terms, men are expendable, and this
deeply rooted awareness trickles up into the social and political
sphere where indifference to male issues rules the day. If you think
the indifference stems from the low incidence of cuckoldry, think again:
And research shows that it’s a lot more common than we might believe.
After recently reviewing 67 studies on the subject, University of
Oklahoma researchers found that PD rates tend to be much higher among
men who have reason to believe there’s been more than one dog in the
yard. No surprise there. But leave out these men and you end up with a
number that can safely be assumed to represent the rest of us. That
number is 3.85 percent. Another review of 19 studies by a group at
Liverpool John Moores University backs this up, putting the figure at
3.7 percent of dads. It may not seem like a lot—until you do the math.
According to a 2005 U.S. Census Bureau report, there are 27,940,000
fathers nationwide with a child under 18. That means over a million guys
out there are taking care of some other man’s kid.
This number is about 10X higher than the number of forcible rapes committed against females in 2005.
So what are we, as a just and moral nation, doing about this epidemic
of reproductive theft? Well, according to the article, forget about
doctors giving their help to the forces of light; they are in on the
The fact is, the overwhelming majority of physicians will not tell a man the truth about PD.
“Most doctors are going to say to themselves, Jeez, I don’t want to
cause a problem in this family by disclosing this information that I
just stumbled across,” says Alan Meisel, J.D., director of the Center
for Bioethics and Health Law at the University of Pittsburgh. “Why
create problems if I don’t have to?”
And the law? Men are being forced to pay child support for children not their own. As usual, the law is an ass.
My solution to the scourge of cuckoldry is quite simple, which means
it will never be implemented. A marital pre-nup should require
all mothers submit to a paternity test upon the birth of any children.
If paternity is verified, pass the cigars. If not, the man has the
legally sanctioned choice to immediately leave his wife with ZERO
obligations, financial or otherwise, plus the wife will be required to
remit his portion of the investment in her during her pregnancy. A deal
is a deal.
If the law raises the stakes for women intent on committing
cuckoldry, there may be some blowback in the form of women opting to
forego marriage to a beta provider entirely if she cannot exercise her
historical option of getting him to foot the bill for the product of her
indiscretion with the bass player. While this structural change in the
mating system may be bad for the health of society as a whole, for the
individual unfortunate betas, this side effect at least affords them a
chance to improve themselves as men without being saddled with unwanted
Like rape, cuckoldry is the soulkilling dis. Women who commit these
vile acts and then perpetuate them with lies piled atop of lies ought to
be shunned — culturally, legally, and financially. They do not even
deserve the courtesy of a kiss while getting pumped and dumped. If they
don’t experience painful consequences for their actions, nothing